“Tell Me Something That Will Change My Life”

The other day I found myself sat on my sofa feeling totally exhausted and googling, “Tell me something that will change my life” and I came across an article called ‘6 Powerful Questions That Will Change Your Life Forever’ http://tinybuddha.com/blog/6-powerful-questions-that-will-change-your-life-forever/ and it surprised me, I mean it’s not going to pick me up and pluck me out of my life and drop me into another but it certainly made me think and made me realise who I am. I think our society isn’t really suitable for human beings. Society is fast-paced, full of adverts that make us insecure, hate and insults are thrown left, right and centre. Inequality and prejudice exists and we seem to be pushed and shoved into a position where we feel like it’s okay to be anyone but ourselves. The beauty of this article is that it is about YOU and how beautiful uniqueness is. We should focus more on uniqueness because no matter how hard we try as a society we will never all be the same. You can wear the same clothes but your fingerprints will never match anyone else’s.

I thought I’d share the 6 powerful questions and my answers in the hope that someone reading this may do the same and be empowered by themselves or appreciate themselves a little more. I know how mental illness can grind a person down and make one feel like they are so worthless and a burden. This isn’t true and I hope that these questions help you.

1. What do I absolutely love in life?

I love the beach, I love standing there with the sun on my face and the waves breaking against my ankles. I love writing words in the sand with my toes and feeling so blessed and lucky because it feels like I’m on the best place in earth.

I love cuddling up with my dog at night, stroking her paws and hearing her snore in the total darkness with the weight of my duvet resting on me and feeling like I am in my safe haven.

I love music, I love that moment when I have my headphones in and the beat drops and it’s like nothing else in the world matters.

2. What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?

Still being alive is probably top of the list, that’s been a big enough battle but I haven’t done it on my own, there are so many amazing people out there who are the reason I am still here.

Achieving with my writing: Starting this blog, writing for The Huffington Post and signing my very first Author’s contract!

Media work, appearing on the News, Radio 5 live, BBC breakfast, Made in Cardiff and various newspapers.

Receiving a standing ovation after speaking to 450 people at Ignite.

Working with Fixers and being a panelist at the Fixers Feel Happy Fix in London.

3. What would I stand for if I knew no one would judge me?

I already stand up and speak out about mental health in the hope that it will improve things for someone out there but I think if I could live without fear of judgement then I would probably shout louder.

I would also stand up for all the rubbish about nutrition that floats around our society because it is so damaging.

4. If my life had absolutely no limits and I could have it all and do whatever I wanted, what would I choose to have and what would I choose to do?

I don’t want a lot of materialistic things in this life. I am not the kind of person who would want and mansion and 5 cars but a safe, stable roof over my head and a swimming pool would be nice, I love swimming but my body image problems stop me from going. I’d love to have a successful book and to shout about mental health to make positive change in our society.

5. What would I do if I had a billion pounds?

Okay, firstly I would buy a new laptop because this blog is currently being written on a computer on it’s last legs. I’d pay off my parents mortgage and buy myself and my sister a home. I’d go on holiday because I haven’t left this country for years and it’d be nice to see the world a bit. I’d get a rescue dog. I’d donate a big chunk to Fixers, b-eat and mind and then I’d get on the mission of building specialist mental health wards for 18-30 year olds.

6. Who do I admire most in this world?

There isn’t just one person, there’s a lot of incredible women (sorry lads!) who have got me to the place I am now and I admire their qualities. I admire the incredible Deb and Aida from BYHP who got me out of my house, out of my silence and gave me the confidence to persue my writing. I admire Jenny from Fixers for her strength, passion and love for her young people, she really is one of the strongest people I know. I admire Lisa Cordery for her commitment to young people and for staying true to herself. I admire my mum for sticking by me, for making me laugh when I’ve wanted to die and for sleeping in my bed when we didn’t feel so strong. Mum, you’re my rock and everything I am today I owe to you. I admire Julie, my best friend, for her strength, determination and kind heart. You do unbelievable (and terrifying!) things with your rock climbing but you do unbelievable things in life too and I am so lucky to spend time with your beautiful son and wonderful husband. We climbed an actual mountain together but we’ve climbed mental ones too and I will never forget the day we sat in the sunshine playing word games when I was in hospital. I admire Kath, my recovery buddy for her determination in recovery and commitment to DBT, you are a good influence on my life. We have fabulous times together using skills and batting off our eating disorders. Finally, I admire my goddaughter because she is a little miracle and she keeps me fighting on and calms my mind with a beautiful smile. Georgina, I love you. I am so lucky and so blessed to have so many admirable women in my life.


2 thoughts on ““Tell Me Something That Will Change My Life”

  1. Aw that day we played the word games, remember that so well. You know the thing that really struck me that day (besides my horrific knowledge of celebrities), I didn’t know who were staff or visitors and who were patients. I know people with mental illnesses are people first and foremost and the illness is coincidental, much like my coeliac disease. And I think that’s why it surprised me even more. Because I know that and would be so so annoyed at someone who didn’t realise that but still… I don’t think I can quite explain how at that moment playing that game we were all just us, being us and having a laugh together and there was a kind of silent acknowledgement that yeah we all had some struggles, whatever they were, but this was still as good a day as any to spend out in the sunshine with mates. I’m so proud of you and everything you have achieved and are going to achieve, can’t wait to do more together xxxxxx


    1. I know exactly what you mean, it was such a beautiful moment wasn’t it?! And yes, if we could play that moment to people I’m sure it would do so much for stigma. Normal people doing normal things whilst fighting an illness.
      Love you so much xxxxxx


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